In the Path of the Imam (79)
Dear listeners, as a reminder it was said that one of the important issues in social relations is good-temperedness. We also discussed that Imam Khomeini (God’s mercy upon him) was a highly good-tempered person. He used to behave others very affably.
Today we are going to touch upon this characteristic of the Imam according to the narrations of his friends, companions, students and relatives. Good-temperedness means having kind temperament and being sociable and smiling with people. Just as outward beauty is formed by proportion and coordination of all bodily organs, inward beauty is also attained through coordination among all ethical features. According to the Islamic teachings, good-temperedness is one of the parameters of manliness and chivalry. The noble Qur’an lauds Prophet Mohammad (SAWA) as a person with great merits. Stay tuned for more on the issue.
Prophet Mohammad (SAWA) said, “The interpretation of good-temperedness is that the person is satisfied with whatever he gains from the world and if he does not gain, he will not be angry.” Ayah 4 of surah Qalam reads, “Thus because of God’s mercy you are lenient towards them. But, if you had been harsh-tempered, hard-hearted, they would have surely dispersed from around you.” The ayah stresses that the Prophet’s kind-heartedness had its roots in the divine mercy. History bears witness that the Prophet would even treat the polytheists leniently in personal affairs; but in the affairs that pertained to the religion and society, he was very severe and uncompromising. Imam Ali (AS) says, “The most perfect among you in terms of faith is the one who has the best tempers.”
It is narrated that one day, a Christian disrespected the fifth infallible successor of the Prophet, Imam Muhammad Baqer (AS) and his mother, but the Imam behaved so patiently with him that the Christian became Muslim. As it was said before, good-temperedness causes the sins to be forgiven and takes the servant to the degree of the divine messengers in paradise.
According to Imam Ali (AS) good-temperedness will make the affairs of life easy for the individual. Imam Khomeini tolerated myriads of difficulties through good-temperedness and didn’t lose his patience. One of the hardest times in his life was his sickness and surgery. His physician, Dr. Mo’tamedi, said that even in the toughest conditions the Imam would not become ill-tempered. He said, “Imam Khomeini had the morals of Prophet Mohammad (SAWA). During the entire period that we were at his house, most of the things that we did for him and the hard surgical operation that he had, he never frowned. Really, in my opinion he was an exemplary patient. I don’t think anyone could be so high in the degree of the divine satisfaction, to endure pain, and have such disposition so that he wouldn’t do anything to upset us.”
Dear listeners, another worldly consequence of good-temperedness is to enjoy firm and lasting friendship. The Prophet of Islam says, “Good-temperedness stabilizes friendship.”
Imam Khomeini, as an inheritor of this lofty culture and this progeny, had gained deep and lasting friendship and love among companions, near ones and people. Dr. Pourmoqaddasi, a member of Imam Khomeini’s medical team, said, “The Imam had allowed us to go to him at any time of night with just saying ‘Ya Allah’. When we wanted to go to him, we would say ‘Ya Allah’ and he would say ‘Bismillah’ in response. Then we would enter and examine him and hen return. During these exceptional times, I never saw him to frown or become sour with us. He would rather receive us quite cheerfully. This indicated his full patience and forbearance.”
Another consequence of good-temperedness is to self-containment and controlling one’s anger. The noble Qur’an, enumerating the merits of the faithful, says that they quell their anger and pardon the mistakes of others. Imam Khomeini was such a person. Although he was the symbol of courage, he would pardon the flaws of others very soon. His daughter, Zahra Mostafavi, says, “Once, one of the acquaintances had come to us. Since was opposed to something, he was speaking a little loud. Although the Imam was spending his convalescence, he told him very calmly, ‘Why are you upset. Let us speak and somehow come along with each other.’”
Dear friends, although Islam emphasizes on good-temperedness and leniency with people, it admonishes the faithful to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil. In other words, it stresses the necessity of being seriously opposed to those who persist in committing and spreading sins.
Imam Khomeini was very serious in religious affairs and would advise even his near ones to observe religious dos and don’ts.
Well, next time we will start discussing another merit of Imam Khomeini. God bless.